There is a form of grief that is difficult to recognise because it does not fit any of the shapes we have been taught to look for. There is no clear external loss, yet the experience is no less concrete. The person senses that something has broken in their inner continuity, that the thread connecting different periods of their life has become disordered, and that they can no longer function in the way they always had.<\/p>\n
The body registers this too. The rhythm changes, along with the response to stress and the capacity to sustain the day. What once came naturally now demands an effort that accumulates. And this is often where the deepest confusion sets in: the person keeps trying to recover what was there before, treating it as a question of willpower or patience, not yet seeing that the system itself has changed.<\/p>\n
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Identity has a biological basis<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n When we speak of identity as a narrative, we tend to overlook that it rests on a biological foundation. It is a set of patterns consolidated in the nervous system, in hormonal regulation, and in the way the body anticipates and responds to the world. The person we once were was not simply a coherent idea. It was a concrete way of functioning, with its own rhythms, reflexes, and relationship to tiredness and alertness.<\/span><\/p>\n As that continuity breaks, the loss is not only psychological. The body no longer recognises its own automatisms, and a disorientation sets in. It is felt as fatigue, difficulty initiating action, and a sense of distance from oneself that is often hard to put into words.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n In clinical work, this becomes apparent when the person tries to return to being as they were before and meets a limit they cannot understand. They tend to read this as personal failure. The system that once sustained that way of living is no longer available on the same terms, and pressing against it tends to keep the difficulty alive rather than resolve it.<\/p>\n This is where grief acquires a precise clinical meaning. Recognising that that configuration had its place, its conditions, and an equilibrium that has since shifted, and that the distress arising from this is not a malfunction but an expected response to a loss that has not yet been integrated, changes the therapeutic approach substantially.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n How it tends to present<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n When this kind of loss reaches the consultation, it rarely presents itself as grief. The person does not say they have lost something. They speak of a fatigue that does not go away, of difficulty concentrating, of an irritability they do not recognise as their own.<\/p>\n At times, there is a constant pressure to return to how they used to be, even though the body can no longer sustain that way of functioning. In other cases, what emerges is a gradual loss of interest that does not fit with their previous trajectory. The person tries to explain it, but cannot quite find the words.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Recognising the nature of the loss<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Once this experience is understood for what it is, something begins to shift. The pain does not disappear, but it stops being interpreted as a personal failure. It becomes clearer why the constant comparison does not resolve with more effort, why rest does not relieve the fatigue, and why part of the person seems to remain anchored in an earlier time without an obvious reason.<\/p>\n From that point, the clinical work changes direction. It is no longer organised around recovering a previous version of the self, but around establishing a different relationship with this loss. In practice, this requires a different kind of work altogether.<\/p>\n \n \n \n \n \n<\/div>\n Reflective piece \u00b7 digital article on psychology\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Health & Consciousness – Clinical Practice The Person We Used to be A reflection on grieving oneself There is a form of grief that is difficult to recognise because it does not fit any of the shapes we have been taught to look for. 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